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BADMIHAI · 11-12-2005, 05:42 AM

Hey guys! I appolagize for possible gramatical or logical errors in my post since I am tired and drunk.
Here it goes: I've been friends with this girl for over a half a year. The thing is that in the last couple of weekes I've been meeting up with her more often and realized I am in love with her. I don't know how to tell her this since I don't want to fuck up our friendship but think she is just amazing and we have soooo many things in common. Tonight when I drove her home I badly wanted to tell her how I feel but didn't muster the courage to do so. When I got home I sent her an SMS saying "Guess why I'm an idiot." with the intention of telling her tomorrow that I'm an idiot because I haven't told her how I feel about her. Unfortunately I'll be away for most of the day tomorrow (Saturday...and Sunday) and I was thinking of telling her over the phone. Is that kind of geeky? I never get the balls to tell her face to face. What should I do?

Mihai

blinkmeat · 11-12-2005, 05:51 AM

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exhausted mules · 11-12-2005, 06:06 AM

just do what you think is right.

you can't really fuck up since you'll be following your own heart and soul.

personally... i think these kind of things are pretty simple. you two have been "friends" for six months. i'm sure she's just doing the same thing you are...

zondaland · 11-12-2005, 10:11 AM

Yep, I tend to agree with the above, if you are both seeking each other out more then it is probable that she likes you as well. Probably not a great idea to use the L word quite yet (lets face it what chick wants a needy guy) but if you tell her that you really like her then chances are she feels the same way as you do. And yep asking her out face to face shits all over using the phone, although it is a lot harder it shows her that you really care about her since you are prepared to take the immediate humiliation of rejection.

Fleischmann · 11-12-2005, 10:38 AM

Hmmm...very delicate situation you are facing. I agree that since you two have been meeting up a lot in the past half year there is a big chance that it wasn't out of pure friendship. If you gaven't got the guts to tell her the truth then start of with something simple like compliments and work your way on. I say go for it...well, like already said, maybe don't exactly use the L word just yet. If you are to get rejected it's better to know about it early on and not get your hopes up. But if all goes according to plan it will ba huge boost in confidence

The important thing here is to act...whatever happens, at least you won't be able to blame yourself for not doing anything while you had the chance. Good luck!!

aOp · 11-12-2005, 12:40 PM

To tell her over the phone is often not so smart. It's important to stand face to face when dealing with big relationship changes. It's easier for both to share thoughts when standing in front of each other. The SMS was not a mistake. Just call her and say you must talk about it the next time you meet. I'm sure she'll be prepared to hear what you are going to explain if you have messed around enough. By that she is also prepared and know better how she is going to react to your message.

ZfrkS62 · 11-12-2005, 01:21 PM

10 bucks says you aren't as subtle about your feelings for her as you think you are

I'm sure that sms probably keyed her in.

Take blinkmeat's advice and don't tell her you love her. Might scare her off if she isn't ready for something that serious. But you should tell her face to face.

callen · 11-12-2005, 05:09 PM

mahai, DONT drop the L bomb!!!! The only way this will work is if she is madly in love with you.... if she likes you, and i bet she does and wants to take it further, all you need to do is say you want to be more than friends with her and erxplain why...just make sure all ur reasons dont revolve around how sexy her ass is in tight jeans and u wanna suck her tits everytime she wears a low cut top...

neways seriously I was in teh same situation as you, and I waited too long cause i was young and i was a scardey cat, but even tho i thought i may have loved the girl, i didnt say it till a few months after we had finally gotten together. tell her you care about her, and more than friends. If she feels the same way, hell if she even loves you, that can come later after you guys get together. remeber you cant reach the tenth step without walking up the first,second, third step.. u get the picture, looks like ur on the fifth step, just step to the sixth..one step at a time bro, good luck even tho i m sure you dont need it.
I repeat no L BOMB!!! 8)

ZfrkS62 · 11-12-2005, 06:53 PM

send her a SMS saying "wanna FUCK?"

you could also sit in a tree and yell it at her....hey, it works for the birds

riconijhof · 11-12-2005, 07:00 PM

I'm having about the same situation you have, no idea what to do.
She knows I want more, we didn't really speak about it in real life yet, just on MSN.
Everytime I start about it she gets angry and calls me hopeless n shit.
And then we're friends all over again, I date her almost daily and we're very close.
Just this evening we watched a movie, and with a bit of alcohol she was leaning on me and we had a cushion fight

(hey I'm 17, I can still do that).
Thing is, she's got the power over me, wish I knew how to take it back, she keeps telling me I'm a pussy and gotta get cool... Anyone know what to do?

Is this love? :roll:

As for you Mihai, all I can tell you with my little experience is, don't tell her you want more in any other way than in real life! And keep the power in your hands!

zondaland · 11-12-2005, 09:27 PM

^^

Sounds as though she wants you to be a man, do something romantic, do some massive public display of affection. If you have talked about it somewhat and she has allowed you to keep on seeing her a lot then she probably likes you enough to consider a relationship.

twboy1999 · 11-12-2005, 09:34 PM

Originally Posted by riconijhof

I'm having about the same situation you have, no idea what to do.
She knows I want more, we didn't really speak about it in real life yet, just on MSN.
Everytime I start about it she gets angry and calls me hopeless n shit.
And then we're friends all over again, I date her almost daily and we're very close.
Just this evening we watched a movie, and with a bit of alcohol she was leaning on me and we had a cushion fight

(hey I'm 17, I can still do that).
Thing is, she's got the power over me, wish I knew how to take it back, she keeps telling me I'm a pussy and gotta get cool... Anyone know what to do?

Is this love? :roll:

As for you Mihai, all I can tell you with my little experience is, don't tell her you want more in any other way than in real life! And keep the power in your hands!

she is waiting for u to SM her.. she likes it rough

badmihai
i think u shoud tell her u like her..whats the worse can happen? not gonna be friends? if that is the case.. is meant tto be like that anywayz

keep us updated bro

BADMIHAI · 11-13-2005, 04:27 AM

Today we were out until 15 minutes ago (3 at night) just talking with a couple other friends. I drove her home and, as the fucking retard I am, didn't tell her shit. When she asked me about what I meant in the SMS, I told her I didn't remember.
Now I'm talking to her on MSN. Fuck. I think I'd have the balls to tell her over MSN but think that's too nerdy. I want to tell her face to face, and I've had numerous opportunities, but never did it because I'm a pussy. :roll:

zondaland · 11-13-2005, 04:34 AM

Best thing is to do something soon, if you continue as you are at present then she will probably feel that you are acting differently and get the shits. So if you think that MSN is the only way that you can ask her out then do it by MSN but it will have to be one hell of a good proposal if you are going to do it by MSN.

ZfrkS62 · 11-13-2005, 05:00 PM

Originally Posted by BADMIHAI

Today we were out until 15 minutes ago (3 at night) just talking with a couple other friends. I drove her home and, as the fucking retard I am, didn't tell her shit. When she asked me about what I meant in the SMS, I told her I didn't remember.
Now I'm talking to her on MSN. Fuck. I think I'd have the balls to tell her over MSN but think that's too nerdy. I want to tell her face to face, and I've had numerous opportunities, but never did it because I'm a pussy. :roll:

you'll figure something out, don't stres to hard over it. You'll be able to tell her when you're comfortable.