What would you do if somebody is trying to steal your gf?

[WhiteP]

I think it is time to delete the post. Sad memories has to go.

[TT]

Like you, I'd be TOTALLY pissed off.. piss all over! ;)

But I agree: beating him would be immature and you'll be considered really the bad guy in the situation.
And right, you don't have to blame you g/f.. girls often ignore what is in our (guys) mind -> sex, blow and handjob, deep throat and so on LOL.
I'm sure in that guy's mind there was the remote idea he can kiss or even make sex with your girl, but she does not know it..
And apparently he was playing the poor guy that has to go away and that would like to be with a "friend" the last days... bullshit... if I'd be in your position, I'd try to

- explain to your g/f exactly what is in a guy's mind: buy some porn DVDs and magazine, enough for a 2 hours speech and explain ALL .... but it's dangerous, because she can end up completely disgusted by ALL the men on the planet, including you

- second option: try your best to avoid another meeting between them, be the most romantic and cool guy on heart with her and hope the dork would leave soon..

Really, I'm not an expert too, and I'd be very pissed/embarassed in a similar situation...

[novass]

sorry to hear that man. its a tough call. give it enough time to make sure you make the right decision. this is why i bought a punching bag, bitches make me feel like punching things, its not always worth the fight tho.

if you trust her enough to believe that she didnt do anything and hes leaving, i wouldnt worry so much about it.

[WhiteP]

TT I realize that too. When I see some chicks with big tops and good looking, any kind of imagination can be make up in my mind. The next thing to do "of coz is to chase it" to make the imagination REAL.

should I tell her about what's in the guy mind right now? She's online. Like I said, I don't want to say bad things about that guy like what the guy did to me. Also, I don't know if she will believe what I said.

or should I like what novass said? leave it alone?

[novass]

talk to her, but i would say do it in person. keep your demeanor calm and collected, dont get upset, and tell her what you feel and whats goin on. do like TT says, wine her and dine her (and sex her!) make her forget about all about that hoser

[WhiteP]

thanks novass. I will tell her later then.

Gotta offline now. See you guys later.

[TT]

Best wishes WhiteP! And as novass said: if she loves you, you don't have to fear :)

[1zippo1]

Damn, this really sucks... Don't know if I'm being selfish if I say: bin there, done that :? But I have.

This shit happend to me when I had a girlfriend 2 year ago who was a bit older then me & incredibly gorgeous (in my oppinion). Guys were allways around her, trying to make a pass at her (or how do you say it in English). I once left her alone for one hour when we went out and afterwards I heard 5 guys had tried something... in one hour, in some small pub where max 80 people or so can get into. A few weeks later I couldn't see her for a while & when I called her she told me the last couple of days she had been going out with a friend who had bought her all kinda shit and took her for romantic walks in the park and so on ... And I still couldn't see her for a few weeks (went on vacation a couple of times), she called me to break it off ...

No don't panic ... I didn't have a chance to interfear so I allready knew I lost her when I heard she was going out with that dude. And I really really regret I lost that girl, she was so incredibly sweet for me, was fun to go out with and was no slet like so many others. She was 20 years old and I was only her second lover.

It's true what TT says, you've got to make her forget all about that guy, that the second thing what you have to do! But first you have to talke to her. Go running or something to lose are your anger, or at least a bit of it. Then take her to a quiet spot and explain what he's after, you don't have to be so drastic, like showing her porn. Just tell her that it's obvious what he's aftere. Why would he spend money on her otherwise, why would he spend his time, why is he acting like he's the victim. Explain this with a lot of patience, even when she gets mad, try to stay calm. Afterwards hold her and go for a walk or something. Take her out to a movie, dinner, ... all the shit. Spoil her... And I'm sure you'll get her back. But you'll have to do some effort. And don't act like you're the victim or like you're so afraid to lose her and stuff. Be sweet for but act like you're strong. At least that's what I should try to do.

Maybe my advice isn't that good, but I hope you find a way to solve this.

Wish you the best of luck with it!!!!

[gis]

i understand how u feel whiteP.been there with the whole g/f situation.twice things happened to me,once this girl got with me for a joke,never found out y,i thought it wud have been to good to be true,i mean she was like,how can i put it,top of the crop in school.and i was meant to meet her one nite,goin take her out,she sent one of her friends to tell me it was all a joke,that hurt a lot.the second time,when i was away on holiday,a best friend at the time kissed and made out with the girl i was seein,i was seein her for like a year.at that point when i got bak,i did result to violence,and hit the guy.normally i wouldnt hit people.but IMO,if the guy has done sumthin with your girl,u have reason to basically kick the shit outta him.

what TT and novass have said is for your situation,the best information u can get IMO,they have said what u should do with what u know has gone on,treat her to dinner and some nice wine,than treat her to some sweet lovin :D the rest of the nite.then,if u find out sumthin has gone on,use my method,but i think thats the only time u should use violence,thats if a guy has done sumthin with your girl

[1zippo1]

yep, because if you do hit the guy, you only make him happy because your girl will see him as the victim again. So unless he provokes it, don't result into violence. If he does, kiss his ass, even if you have to use a tool... this kinda situation is the only good reason for agression.

I think it's ok for couples to go out seperatly with other friends BUT there's something different to going out with a couple of friends who act normal then with one person alone, who she only knows shortly and tries to win her by buying her shit & so.

[sportVeloce]

WhiteP, this is all f*cked up. You want to be careful otherwise you will get played. Dont trust females, its the dumbest thing you can possibly do. They know what the guys are upto, dont think they are stupid for a second.

Why does your gf keep communicating with the guy?? Like on ICQ, Messages, what about phone when your not there??

Now there are two things you can do that have served me well.

1) Kick the guys ass. I lost a girl once (she thought she could play me), to a friend. I kicked his ass and he never saw my ex ever again. He refused to talk to her. This is a good method if you can look after yourself (btw i was a state/nat boxing champion). You warned the guy, its all fair game now. If it was an innocent mistake, I can understand that (on his part). But if he persists he obviously did not get your message. Time to reinforce it. I dont think there is anything immature about that. You are a man, you cant go letting other people disrespect you like that. Its not the same as some guy saying hi in a bar, or someone looking at your girl. He knows of you now, you warned him.

2) Confront her (not on ICQ). You have told her about him. She needs to make a choice. If she cares about you she will make a decision to tell the guy its gone way to far and it is inapproprite to communicate anymore. This is the easiest solution. You need to let her know that you wont be putting up with any funny business. If she loves you she wont go screwing around. If she doesnt, then GREAT you know NOW and not in 10 years when she leaves you and your TWO young kids, and takes that nice RED FERRARI you saved your whole life for and 1/2 your nice house.

Dont fall for the "Im so innocent" shit. If it looks like shit and it smells like shit, then it is shit.

She is communicating inappropritely via Phone, ICQ and basically dating the guy by going and doing such fun things with him. I would not be putting up with that. YOU DESERVE BETTER.

BE SMART. You start crying and carrying on about how much you love her then you are little more than an UNDESIRABLE that any girl can have. Females like a challenge. If you are no challenge then you are nothing. You need to give her some of her own. Start seeing some nice girls you know, just catching a movie together etc. Then she will realise she has someone worth something. If others want you, then she will.

I have a history of nice ladies. I know the game, every girl plays it. You think they dont because they are sweet, so kind etc, but watch your back because they are the ones that bite the hardest.

Ever heard the following: "Nice guys finish last"??? They dont say that because its false.

The law about conspiracy is a good one. Think about it. She knows whats going on and she is more or less encouraging it by the continued communication. If that continues he will get his way with her and next thing you know, you will be "MR NICE" that doesnt have a gf anymore.

[Jabba]

This shit happend to me when I had a girlfriend 2 year ago who was a bit older then me & incredibly gorgeous (in my oppinion). Guys were allways around her, trying to make a pass at her

Hey Zippo I dont suppose you still have her number that you could give to me please ??? :wink:

[SFDMALEX]

Maybe that guy is a faget. Girls like queers(because there all after one thing, MEN), if she loves you(and Im sure she does) she wouldnt go out with him for physical reasons(sexual attraction). Girls are not like guys. They dont cheat(well at least 95% dont) and the other 5%that do are fucking sluts. So dont worry mate.

[leinad111]

ummmmm sorry to tell ya bro but if she go to karoke wit dude.......she proably...fuckem.........sorry to be the beaer of the bad news.......how old r u?
leinad 111 step to getttin revenge on a cheatin bitch
step 1. kick his ass
step 2. get some porn
step3. get a digital cam
step 4. get a stripper
step5. u and ur new stripper girlfreind make a porno
step 6. send the vid of u and ur new stripper girlfriend to ur OLD girlfiend usin ICQ..tell her ur just helpIN the stripper out wit her buns :!:
step7. post the vid on jabbas world
steo8. kick his ass
*tip* drinkin liqour through all of this help the process

[1zippo1]

Hey Zippo I dont suppose you still have her number that you could give to me please ??? :wink:

Hehe, you wish dude :wink:

More on subject:

sportVeloce: has some excellent points. I don't think you should kick that guys ass immediatle but if you really see him tailing your girlfriend (and I don't mean an sms or something like that) again you've got every right to kick his ass.

You can't forbid your girlfriend to go out with others but she can't do stuff like that with a guy that's chasing her. And in this case you have to set an example. And certainly get things straight with her, be calm but say it's improtant to be honest & tell that kinda things. It's not normall to do stuff like that when you have a serious relation.

And after that, go for a walk so you can both think things over. Afterwards, or the next day I would take her to a movie & be sweet for her.

[skelter]

I don't know your GF but if she's worth being with her she wouldn't run off with some guy.

[gis]

ummmmm sorry to tell ya bro but if she go to karoke wit dude.......she proably...fuckem.........sorry to be the beaer of the bad news.......how old r u?
leinad 111 step to getttin revenge on a cheatin bitch
step 1. kick his ass
step 2. get some porn
step3. get a digital cam
step 4. get a stripper
step5. u and ur new stripper girlfreind make a porno
step 6. send the vid of u and ur new stripper girlfriend to ur OLD girlfiend usin ICQ..tell her ur just helpIN the stripper out wit her buns :!:
step7. post the vid on jabbas world
steo8. kick his ass
*tip* drinkin liqour through all of this help the process

lol,even if sum1 doesnt have a g/f who hasnt cheated on them,do that anyway,sounds like a blast :P

[1zippo1]

I don't know your GF but if she's worth being with her she wouldn't run off with some guy.

When u want a girl who doesn't do that you have to be very very lucky or just get a non :P

Really, lots of girls do stuff like that, that isn't the worst thing. It sucks but it's not cheating.

And most (take notice, I say most) girls who never do shit like this are boring and/or ugly or make you think they don't do that...

[possessed_beaver]

dude, i f\rely feel for u man, i have had nothing but BAD.. and REAL BAD
experances with chicks, hahah wana swap fucked over by chick story's?

i have now given up on them :)

i can see this guy is rely tryign 2 get in her pants, weather she realises it or not.. i think u should do something about it, without been 2 protective...

cuz in the end u know that u are a better guy that he could ever be

[Johns]

I think its all about ur g/f...if she wants to hook up w/ him, dump her ass and get another girl...or just start hangin out w/ another girl and see how she likes it :twisted:

[suqish76]

i can see this guy is rely tryign 2 get in her pants, weather she realises it or not.. i think u should do something about it, without been 2 protective...

cuz in the end u know that u are a better guy that he could ever be
i agree. how did your g/f meet him in the first place is he an old friend of hers.
maybe if you explain to your g/f that you think he is trying to take her from you she may start taking more notice of he's action's and forget about him.
either way good luck man......

[gis]

no matter who the girl is,if u tell them that a guy she is hangin with,is doin things for her just to get in her pants,they never EVER beleive u,they just think they are bein friendly

[leinad111]

leinad111 wrote:
ummmmm sorry to tell ya bro but if she go to karoke wit dude.......she proably...fuckem.........sorry to be the beaer of the bad news.......how old r u?
leinad 111 step to getttin revenge on a cheatin bitch
step 1. kick his ass
step 2. get some porn
step3. get a digital cam
step 4. get a stripper
step5. u and ur new stripper girlfreind make a porno
step 6. send the vid of u and ur new stripper girlfriend to ur OLD girlfiend usin ICQ..tell her ur just helpIN the stripper out wit her buns
step7. post the vid on jabbas world
steo8. kick his ass
*tip* drinkin liqour through all of this help the process




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[WhiteP]

I just wake up. I m very thankful all the responses I got. :D Thank you so much guys. This is a very comfortable place to talk and get somebody to help with regarding anything. I m going to pick her up because she is having the same class with that guy. I will reply once I got back home. Cya.

[gis]

hey hope it goes ok dude,let us know straight away what went on

[WhiteP]

phew, I m finally home. Staying in her school doing nothing to wait for her finish her classes. I think everything is fine now, hopefully :D . I saw that guy but we didn't talk. He went away once he saw me waiting for her.

TT, I m not scared at all, but how many jerks are there in the world I wonder? If the girl really likes him, I won't say anything. I will regret why I didn't treat her better before. However, he pretends everything is on his side. That's what pissed me off.

Zippo, it really sucks what happened to you. I think my case isn't any worst then yours. I think there're many things we will regret over our life, but we can learn from it. So that when you see another gorgeous girl just like her, you know what to do. I believe there're MANY 20 years old hot girls out there. It just depends on our luck if we will meet them. I m really calm now and not angry anymore. I guess I will not tell her what the guy is after because I don't want her to hate all males in the world. I think there're still good husbands and good boyfriends in the world. Also, if I tell her, she may think why did I chase her before? for her body? honestly, I didn't chase her for her body or want to have sex with her. It is just that I m very lonely last Christmas and she is so friendly to me. That's all. I will not act as a victim, all I want is to protect her as much as I can. I m afraid if the guy doesn't succeed, what will he do to my girl? I already told my girl, if she really wants him, I can break up anytime. I just don't want her doing things in my back.

Gis, that's sucks too. Sigh, I can't believe that so many guys got hurt or play by girls. I think you did the right thing beating that guy. So did you talk to that girl after? Ask her why she did that to you? If the guy really did something to my girl, I m sure I will beat the shit out of him using whatever I have.

Sportveloce, she said never talk on phone with him, never msg him. Only icq and during class time I guess. Wow boxing champion, I hope I m as strong as you're, oops sound too girlish. I should go work out sometimes then. And yup I warned him already, if he did anything physically to my girl, I m sure I will kick his ass. She made her decision and she will avoid him as much as she can. That's what she told me. Your advices are very informative. Now I know more about what girls have in their mind. Thanks.

SFDMALEX, yup I trust her. I don't worry anymore. :D

Leinad111, haha great steps you provided. I will use it on somebody else in the future. Wait a sec, do you belong to the General chat section? I think you should go back to Red Hot Babes for Kitty Killers. J/k

Skelter, she won't I guess. The reason I m posting because I m so mad at that jerk and don't know where to talk.

beaver, we should arrange a swap fucked night? anyone wanna join?

John, I actually hang out with some girls. She keep calling when I m out with da girls. I think she cares.

Suqish76, he is a classmate of her for this semester. Thanks for good luck. I think I will do ok.

After all, I gain more experience and knowledge on relationship between men and women. I don't know what is going to happen next, but I think I m doing quite well now. Thank you everybody that supports me in this event. Truly Thank you. :D

[gis]

im glad it went ok for u today dude.the guy may be gettin the message now.did u giv him the evil stare into his eyes :D

at the time when i hit the guy for doin that,the girl i was seein tried to stop me and pushed me bak and got in my face,as u can imagine i was pissed off and extremely in a hyper active mood,so i was like pullin my fist bak all the time,she stood infront of me and said,go on hit me to,i said no,im not like that at all,so ill leave u alone,i had a friend there at the time who was a girl called naomi,she moved me away,and said to her,maybe he wont hit u,but i will,and she nailed her one :D so it was all good really.

but the pain came the nite after when i was alone and had nuthin else to do but go through my thoughts.but im over it now and that what she did to me bout the cheatin and stuff must have become a habit coz now she is single with a child.

there are the bad girls out there and the good ones,and when u find the good one,u will know about it,as i think u do bout your girl.she may be the one for u,if she is,u 2 will be perfect and nuthin to worry bout.

i may have found the right girl aswell.a girl im close friends with,very close,like we are a couple already.but everythin between me and her just fits perfect (not tryin to be dirty there either :wink: )

im glad to have gave u my oppinion and hope listenin to my story aswell makes u feel not alone in the whole situation. :)

[XyKo]

GLAD it work, but not for long. First of all, Don't stalk your girl! Next go out to dinner and talk with her seriously. If she says yes she likes him, then who cares about her, and to make her really mad, go get a better looking chick. If she says no, then ask her, why is she doing this to you? And say, "what did I do wrong to you?"

If you dont' do this fast, sooner or later, you'll see her with the guy again. Also are you in the STates? If you're are which one? If you live in Mass, I'll help you out and fuck up that dude for you. I hate bitches that only tries to steal yoru girl and start trouble.

Best excuses they'll use is, "You so suck, that's why your girl don't like you"
"You girl is dumb, and all I just want is her body"(beat the shit out of him when he says that :)"
"Who cares about your relationship, as long as I got a piece of her. (Beat the crap out of him, and or have someone beat him up at night, so you don't get anything in this)"
"Yeah, I'm stealing your girl, what are you going to do?" (up to you on this point, but for me, I'll just beat the crap on him no matter what's the situation is)

Just try to be serious with your girl, and tell her that you love her.
Rule #1: Don't buy her anything new! (if you do, it's showing her that you're weak and think bribery is everything.)
Rule #2: Be serious with her, and do things that you both enjoy the most.(not sex please, something that's outgoing)
Rule #3: Ask her nicely to not hang out with the guy again. Says it have hurts your feeling already, and show it to her by fake cries.(make sure you have soem tears). And give her that face where you can get anything. (chicks love that.)

[WhiteP]

Gis, Evil stares? sure I did. HAHA

Naomi? The name is very cute. I love what she did for you. I think she probably has something towards you too. And the bitch who has a child may be very regret now that she didn't choose you. It is good to hear you found yourself a perfect girl too. I wish both of your heart will link together forever. :D

I m glad to receive your opinion. It really helps. I love Jabbas world that I can meet nice people all over the world.

Xyko, thanks for your advices. I think it isn't as bad for now. If it really works out like what you said, no question I will do what you suggest. And Thanks a lot offering me the help to beat up that guy, but I live in Vancouver. Anyways, Canada and the States are so close, if I happen to go to Mass, I will msg you and lets go for a drink together.

[1zippo1]

I'm glad the situation is turning better. If your girl promised you to avoid him... that's a lot you archieved!!! And I think if she's honest, you probably won't have problems concerning that guy anymore.

Gis that really sucks dude, but damn that Naomi girl rules :P Cool chick!! That one story I told you happend to me a pretty long time ago. And after that girl I had another one, and damn that one was a dirty bitch. Tricked me into thinking she wanted to be with me forever and stuff like that. After 3 months she was allready cheating on me and has done so with multiple guys... I don't know for sure how many, but there were a lot :x at least 3 or 4. When I knew this a couple of months later I got crazy... especially because she tricked me so bad & because I knew those guys, they often went out with us. I was kinda depressed for a couple of months after that, and I don't think I've ever drunk so much alcohol in such a short while. So I've tried to them beat up a lot of times, but I never really succeeded :( Never came further then one push at a time because my friends allways pulled me back and held me. I've tried for about a month by going to his house & stuff like that, then I just said to him that whenever he's near me he should start running. At a party a couple of months ago, I saw him again and he was laughing with me behind my back, I hadn't noticed he was there. When my friends told me I was furious off course. Went to look for him and he I saw him standing with 5 other pretty though looking fellows so I gave him the agry look for a while and waited till he had to go home. When he did, he was with one other friend of his, I chased them. And they were with two... They run into a couple of alleys and I lost track... pitty. Never saw him again after that.

I never expected to tell this story here :)

[gis]

lol,zippo,i never expected to tell that story either.but i guess thats a good thing that we can.at least i hope it is.

whiteP,yeah naomi was a cool chick and i did think maybe she did like me that way,coz i know after all that with the other girl,i knew i had sumthin for her.but whever the opportunity arrived,we both would just bak out,and the nervous giggly talk would begin,but after like 10 mins we wud be bak to normal,so i guess that was one of those relationships that we knew the friendship side was the more important part.but now i VERY VERY rarely speak to her.so it isnt the same no more.

the sentence u just said bout hoping me and vicky (new girl) hearts link together forever,i appreciate u sayin that.and i thank you :)

Zippo,lol,like i said to whiteP,yeah she was a cool chick.and with all respect to her and stuff,but i wud have HIT it,and HIT it more than once.but thats a different story,lol :P
the story you said must have hurt like you said,gettin depressed over girls seems to be a factor of life for all the guys at sum point.like i said b4,theres a percentage of girls that given the opportunity to cheat,will do it,no idea y,but they wud,but then there is that one girl,that IS oout there for us,and when u find her,u will know it,she wont cheat and neither will u for that fact,everythin between you will be the best it can be and stay like that forever

[crochico]

WhiteP, i'm glad to hear your situation is getting better.. i just broke up with my gf or 16 months about half a month ago, due to stupid things happening that were similar to the title of your topic (i missed your story because i haven't visited the site in a while).. if your girl really cares about you, she'll tell her "friend" to leave her alone if he wants to be more than friends.. i wasn't about to be fucked (sorry for the poor french) by anyone, and i really didn't need to get my self in trouble by beating the shit out of some stupid guy.. and in the end, i made the best decision possible and life goes on