My newest "Women" problem

[blinkmeat]

Last week I emailed this gurl I know I could have been exclusive with a couple of years ago, but I had a gf and she had a bf so I never put the work in.

We did and do email every month or so just to mull over things, but last week I decided to start the romantic ball rolling again since I'm recently single. So I emailed her a message that asked her one blasee' question and the others were:

Do you like strawberries and Champagne?

and

Do you believe in second chances?

To which she responded....

"This sounds like a pick up line"

and

"depends on what the second chance is about"

Now I'm not entirely stupid, I know this doesn't sound very good. But I am interested in her, and I was wondering if this might be some kind of test...?

I was thinking about answering back in a "... pick up line? you wish kind of way..."

But what do you think I should do?

[Igorionia]

If she still got bf ,and they are happy, maybe you should wait a little ?
But if she's not happy with him or smth wrong , that's she's choice too.
So...

[23790554]

Just go for it

but remember, good friends always last longer than gf

[possessed_beaver]

aHHHH!!!!!

she is trying to test you!!!!
reply to this - and bust her balls, she won't know what to do!!!

say
"nooo.. it was a question, i could of asked if you like dogs and cats.. i think thats a better pickup line ;)
second chances - comon evreyone believes in them!

you are no fun.. i think i'll go play with my action man toys!"

she will be vrey shocked... *hopes*
well thats atleast how i would answer it.

[stracing]

you know all about the beaver don't you? :mrgreen:

[SilviaEvo]

HIT IT!!!

[possessed_beaver]

you know all about the beaver don't you? :mrgreen:

:D :D

[Xploded]

Ha Ha thats a good one beaver, action man toys ha ha .......

[blinkmeat]

Ya I was gunna bust on her for this... but this chick has balls. She'll totally shoot this kinda stuff down... she'll see this shit coming 10 miles away. I need something wicked good...

Thoughts?

[possessed_beaver]

Ya I was gunna bust on her for this... but this chick has balls. She'll totally shoot this kinda stuff down... she'll see this shit coming 10 miles away. I need something wicked good...

Thoughts?

no she wont!!!

evrey guy thinks this about this chick, but doesent have the guts to bust her balls.

she is probley the type use 2 kiss arses, throw it right back at her, you aren't going to play her games.

if she had it her way would would reply with some mushy love letter, and she would leed you on for about 4 months with no pussy from her at all.

bust on her!!!
say something risky and unpredictable, and make sure she knows it's a privlage that you are talking to her, after all it's you're reality not hers!

[SFDMALEX]

Reply:


Pick up lines are not my forte, that is why I stay away from them.



And by second chances I mean people trying to get together for the second time.






You have to be straight and elegant. No bullshit needed. Just play cool. No need to bullshit :wink: Being open and straight is the best approach.

[possessed_beaver]

Reply:

Pick up lines are not my forte, that is why I stay away from them.


And by second chances I mean people trying to get together for the second time.


You have to be straight and elegant. No bullshit needed. Just play cool. No need to bullshit :wink: Being open and straight is the best approach.

yeh.. honestley if u want her to play u like a guitar!

you need to bust on her!! and not be live evrey other guy who kisses her arse (and is honest)
and avoid her seeing u as one of her friends... it makes it easier for her to see you as "one of her lovers"

[Kal-EL905]

Listen guys, I'm a bouncer at a bar. I work 7 nights a week and I meet thousands of people per week. I've talked to so many women about situations just like this and they almost all say the same thing: be honest.

It sounds stupid, but it works. Level with her, don't feed her bullshit because she'll know its bullshit.

I say to tell her how you feel but be honest, if worse comes to worst you might still be friends and in the future you might get another chance, but if you try to bullshit her you could ruin the friendship and any chances there may have been of getting together with her.

Cheers,
Kal-EL

[Stikz]

yo, beat that shit man, lol

[blinkmeat]

Well to bust on this chick was something and is something that came natural to me so that's how its gunna play, but how in the hell do I get her over to my place by being her challenge?

[RC45]

Well to bust on this chick was something and is something that came natural to me so that's how its gunna play, but how in the hell do I get her over to my place by being her challenge?

Dude.. with the shit luck you seem to have with woman, you might want to consider going homo.. or maybe bi.. :P

You will instantly double your chances.. :P

[Stikz]

Kal-el has the right idea. be honest man, otherwise you might miss out on a good thing. At the very least you'll find out if she's down or not. You're better off finding out the truth.
Good luck man.

[possessed_beaver]

Well to bust on this chick was something and is something that came natural to me so that's how its gunna play, but how in the hell do I get her over to my place by being her challenge?

easy, ask her over to watch a DVD, look at ya action man collection, just don't say it's a date.. but she will know the real reaosn (unless she is stupid)

then fuck her - simple, and honestey is only if you want to get played!

[DMbaseball1604]

First of all...IMO, dont talk about stuff like that in an e-mail, girls like it when you can look them in the eye and talk to them..and have confidence in your self and what you are saying ...then they know you are being honest

[DeMoN]

From my experience, one thing is over the phone or using computer... you have to be in front of her when you do your stuff. Go over there (shows you are in fact interested) and talk to her. See how she acts with you. There has been a girl which has and still is in love with me for 4 years. For the same reason as yours (me having a GF), nothing happened. She has had like 5 boyfriends and whenever I talked to her over the phone she seemed happy. Once I was with her, treated her nice and made her laugh... 2 days after she broke up with them. Women are weird, if they feel you are close and they feel good with you... they do stupid stuff.

p.s. 2 days before coming back to the U.S. I got a little something, shall we say "farewell"?

[Kal-EL905]

Kal-el has the right idea. be honest man, otherwise you might miss out on a good thing. At the very least you'll find out if she's down or not. You're better off finding out the truth.
Good luck man.

Best chance for success, trust me.

[blinkmeat]

Well to bust on this chick was something and is something that came natural to me so that's how its gunna play, but how in the hell do I get her over to my place by being her challenge?

Dude.. with the shit luck you seem to have with woman, you might want to consider going homo.. or maybe bi.. :P

You will instantly double your chances.. :P

Like I said before RC, I won't go out with you!

[RC45]

Well to bust on this chick was something and is something that came natural to me so that's how its gunna play, but how in the hell do I get her over to my place by being her challenge?

Dude.. with the shit luck you seem to have with woman, you might want to consider going homo.. or maybe bi.. :P

You will instantly double your chances.. :P

Like I said before RC, I won't go out with you!

Don't make me file a restraining order... I know how you "stylish" fellows operate.. :P

[blinkmeat]

Again with the relevant button, either say something worth saying or just stfu

[RC45]

Again with the relevant button, either say something worth saying or just stfu

Well, well - all up and with the flow of the humour and then you get all offended and offensive and bounce off the wall.

I guess you are just a punk asshole afterall.

Maybe you "bad luck" with the ladies is because thats what you are.

Just some prick loser who can't even get on with ladies without having to resort to Internet Forum advice.

[BADMIHAI]

Just some prick loser who can't even get on with ladies without having to resort to Internet Forum advice.



Smells like ownage to me. :mrgreen:

[possessed_beaver]

Again with the relevant button, either say something worth saying or just stfu

Well, well - all up and with the flow of the humour and then you get all offended and offensive and bounce off the wall.

I guess you are just a punk asshole afterall.

Maybe you "bad luck" with the ladies is because thats what you are.

Just some prick loser who can't even get on with ladies without having to resort to Internet Forum advice.

dude, i dont think there was any need to talk to him like that,

if he wants advice, as a community we should be there to help him.

[Kal-EL905]

Again with the relevant button, either say something worth saying or just stfu

Well, well - all up and with the flow of the humour and then you get all offended and offensive and bounce off the wall.

I guess you are just a punk asshole afterall.

Maybe you "bad luck" with the ladies is because thats what you are.

Just some prick loser who can't even get on with ladies without having to resort to Internet Forum advice.

dude, i dont think there was any need to talk to him like that,

if he wants advice, as a community we should be there to help him.


Agreed. Lighten up a little bit. There's nothing wrong with wanting to gauge public opinion on a subject.

[RC45]

Again with the relevant button, either say something worth saying or just stfu

Well, well - all up and with the flow of the humour and then you get all offended and offensive and bounce off the wall.

I guess you are just a punk asshole afterall.

Maybe you "bad luck" with the ladies is because thats what you are.

Just some prick loser who can't even get on with ladies without having to resort to Internet Forum advice.

dude, i dont think there was any need to talk to him like that,

if he wants advice, as a community we should be there to help him.


Agreed. Lighten up a little bit. There's nothing wrong with wanting to gauge public opinion on a subject.

Bull shit.

He was all ok, particiapting in an obviously friendly banter/humourous exchange - and then he has to come with the cockassed "relevence button" comment - not the first time either (the first time I let it go - but obviously he is intent on making something of it)

If he dishes it - I will pass it right back.

[SilviaEvo]

Again with the relevant button, either say something worth saying or just stfu

Well, well - all up and with the flow of the humour and then you get all offended and offensive and bounce off the wall.

I guess you are just a punk asshole afterall.

Maybe you "bad luck" with the ladies is because thats what you are.

Just some prick loser who can't even get on with ladies without having to resort to Internet Forum advice.

dude, i dont think there was any need to talk to him like that,

if he wants advice, as a community we should be there to help him.


Agreed. Lighten up a little bit. There's nothing wrong with wanting to gauge public opinion on a subject.

Bull shit.

He was all ok, particiapting in an obviously friendly banter/humourous exchange - and then he has to come with the cockassed "relevence button" comment - not the first time either (the first time I let it go - but obviously he is intent on making something of it)

If he dishes it - I will pass it right back.

BURNED! Looks like Blinkmeat got burned for taking it a bit to seriously

[possessed_beaver]

yeh RC45 - he was dishing it out, no arguments from me,

but you should be the bigger man, and let it slide - it hurts me 2 see arguing in JW.

well it's pretty cool, but not when it's arguments over stupid shit.

[RC45]

yeh RC45 - he was dishing it out, no arguments from me,

but you should be the bigger man, and let it slide - it hurts me 2 see arguing in JW.

well it's pretty cool, but not when it's arguments over stupid shit.

Whoa... I don't how you know that I am the bigger man - I was assured those photos were for a private gallery.. :shock:

Back to the reaction - I let it slide last time - and he just assumed he could continue pissing in my corn flakes with no consequence... perhaps he will think twice next time ;)

[TransAm]

Whoa... I don't how you know that I am the bigger man - I was assured those photos were for a private gallery.. :shock:



LMAO! :lol:

[FPVPSI]

yeh RC45 - he was dishing it out, no arguments from me,

but you should be the bigger man, and let it slide - it hurts me 2 see arguing in JW.

well it's pretty cool, but not when it's arguments over stupid shit.

could continue pissing in my corn flakes with no consequence

Thats one kick ass term, sounds like it's an aussie word.... :D

[blinkmeat]

No, no... I'm up for any kind of banter anytime. If you wanna spar thats coo, but RC has a tendency to jack threads and turn them into conversation about what he wants :? , and I'm on a time-line here. Thats all...

Anyways, ball busting email is off so we'll see. :wink:

[blinkmeat]

Well this is what I got back,

"don't be an ass.............

i am fun,

kinda..

bye!!"

Need some time to digest it myself, but what do you think?

[Kal-EL905]

Ambiguous at best.....time for a phone call I think. It's easy for her to avoid the subject by e-mail.

[blinkmeat]

Sounding more and more like a blow off to me. I need help from the Beav...

[possessed_beaver]

ok man, she is trying to set you to be "a mold" and control you,

you can see this by "don't be an ass" you are been uncontrollable.. maybe it reminds her of the last guy she fucked! - who was probley more then likely, and uncontrollable guy who knows what he wants and gets it.

"i am fun" she is trying to qualify with you that she is a fun type, she knows that u seek fun awsome people to hang around with.. and potentially fuck, and she wants you to know she is fun to!

just Ignore the "kinda"..

and you can see by the way she typed "bye!!" the "!" she is ovisley has some exitment about what she has written, maybe you got her adventurous "little girl" side out of her.

but now is the time you should be moving onto the phone call..
rember, you called her because u where BOARED!!! - joke ya fav action man broke, and u have nothing 2 play with.. if she throws it back at you with something like "play with ya dick" don't turn the convo to sexual.. (because after all you are in control of the conversation!!) and she was been a bitch.. u don't reward her for that kind of behavior.

now when u are talking on the phone, be energetic, wave ya hands around, then move the convo on to other things, like sex or whatever.. you can get chicks sao turned on on the telephone it's not funny! start it off by this "u know i like cuddling better then sex.. i can sit on a bed all night with someone i deeply care about and just cuddle.. infact as i lie there cuddling, i would sometimes kiss them.. just keep it on that track nothing to cheesey, and u could possible have her drowning in her own pussy juices at the end of the night.

and in the middle of HER TALKING.. about anything could be how her dad died and she misses him!!
just interrupt and say, "yeh.. nice (kinda sarcastically) look *insert name* i have to go, im busy and have something to do, i mite call u later" *then hang up!*

she won't know what hit her, and rember no matter what don't call her back for at least 2 days, coz chances are she will call you saying how much that convey ment to her blah blah blah, and how much more she wants to talk to you!

but beware.. things could change at it couldn't go like i said.
and rember, never reward bratty and selfish behavior from chicks - no matter what.

and always speak with TOTAL confidence, and never doubt yourself, and it will come naturaly, you dont speak with confidence and have confidence then dont waste you're time!

[Kal-EL905]

As a former psychology student I'd have to say that possessed_beaver has some really good points.

Like he said, pay close attention to your internal cheese meter when you talk top her, if it's too cheesy she'll see right through it and be totally turned off.

Good luck.

[blinkmeat]

Thx, good stuff here. The only problem is that I don't even have her #

[RC45]

Thx, good stuff here. The only problem is that I don't even have her #

Then what's the point? :lol:

[blinkmeat]

Thx, good stuff here. The only problem is that I don't even have her #

Then what's the point? :lol:

Thats the next step

[RC45]

Thx, good stuff here. The only problem is that I don't even have her #

Then what's the point? :lol:

Thats the next step

Just ask the lady for her phone number... damn... this is like pulling teeth... :P

[Kal-EL905]

You gotta get her number. If you ask and she denies you, move on.

We all need to know when to say, "NEXT!!!"

[DeMoN]

Get her on the phone really. Over the net, she has plenty of time to think what to answer. Over the phone, its another story. There she wont be able to make up "wise" answers... go for it.

[callen]

Reply:

Pick up lines are not my forte, that is why I stay away from them.

And by second chances I mean people trying to get together for the second time.

You have to be straight and elegant. No bullshit needed. Just play cool. No need to bullshit :wink: Being open and straight is the best approach

Great minds think alike! this is by far the best approach, pick up lines are cheezy. always tell the truth, but dont leave urself open for rejection unless u are certain u wont be rejected. tread lightly so to speak, but heavy enuf to make an impression. i mean if u are doing it via msn or whatever uc an always play it off as u were jkin if her response is inadequate. the internet by far the easiest way to make headway in a new relationship, or one u may want to commence.

[DeMoN]

The tone in which you intend to say something is greatly compromized through any messenger system. I've had oh so many fights due to this. Me saying something one way and my ex GF interpreting it a different way.

[blinkmeat]

I'm thinking about asking her if she cares to "Prove she's fun" and if she responds positively than I'll ask for her # :roll:

[DeMoN]

Ask her were were would she take you as a first date to show you she is fun. When she answers, ask her when does she want to do it lol

[Kal-EL905]

The tone in which you intend to say something is greatly compromized through any messenger system. I've had oh so many fights due to this. Me saying something one way and my ex GF interpreting it a different way.
This is one of the truest statements I have ever read.

Learn it, love it, live it.

[possessed_beaver]

Reply:

Pick up lines are not my forte, that is why I stay away from them.

And by second chances I mean people trying to get together for the second time.

You have to be straight and elegant. No bullshit needed. Just play cool. No need to bullshit :wink: Being open and straight is the best approach

Great minds think alike! this is by far the best approach, pick up lines are cheezy. always tell the truth, but dont leave urself open for rejection unless u are certain u wont be rejected. tread lightly so to speak, but heavy enuf to make an impression. i mean if u are doing it via msn or whatever uc an always play it off as u were jkin if her response is inadequate. the internet by far the easiest way to make headway in a new relationship, or one u may want to commence.

"mr smooth" ummm because evrey guy hasen't tried that on her since she was 14?

tease her, take the piss out of her, she will seek you're qualification.

ask her to come out shopping with you because u need her opinion (make sure u get coffie for lunch) then try something on and say "if i walked up to you in either of these - what one would i most likley pick u up in?"

she answers you say "geez well im not getting that one"

then u watch her mouth drop, and her pants get incredibley wet!

[SilviaEvo]

i guess the beaver is experienced in this category

[callen]

beaver, sarcasm works for sure, but ur still using pick up lines. and that still cheezy. i mean he hasnt even got a phone number for this girl, so needless to say this is a new relationship, even if their is history. tone may be more difficult to interpret on msn and such, but u have to be very careful what u say and how u word it. ive always used this method to make headway in the early stages of a relationship(before uve even had a date) ive found people answer more truthfully, because u dont have the embarassment of face to face, voice to voice convo if something u say isnt taken very well. avoid pick up lines. be nice, well spoken, truthful and smart about how u go about gettin the ball rolling. if she is interested, ull know. plus if u ask her to do something with you, shopping whatever via msn, shes more likely to lie possibly, but if she agrees, then u know she is interested for sure. otherwise over the phone, she may say yes cause she feels theres no way to put u down lightly, ending up in a disaterous date, and a big kick to ur ego.
P.S. beaver thanks for sarcastically calling me 'mr smooth' ill take that as a compliment. :D

[geargirl63]

The beaver is a teenager and knows how to get teenage pussy. But if I was you I would listen to everyone else. They will lead you down the right path in this situation.
No offense Beav, but you are still playin with teenagers if they respond well to your games. Any real woman would know the difference right away. :)

[1zippo1]

It's maybe stupid to post something that just happend to me, since this is a topic about someone else, but I didn't really think it was worth opening a new topic for.

My nick maybe is the 'ladies man' (I have the daddy to thank for that :D ) but latley my skills have been seriously less succesful then they used to... or at least I have that impression. Anyway, to come to the point of the story:
Tonight I went bowling with my family because 3 relatives from Spain came over for a week. We were there with some 20 people in total. Next to us there were some girls playing. And one of them was absofuckinglutely bloody gorgeous... Like supermy kinda type, not too big, not too small, long brown hair, beautifull body. But still she wasn't like showing all of the goods to everybody, if you know what I mean. Of course I like to look at sexy girls, the less clothes the better :P but I really like (for something more then looking) girls who're sexy but don't try to impress everybody with that. So my uncle and cousin started saying: hey that's a nice one, isn't she something for you, ... And well after a while she also started looking at me, quite alot actually :D I was kinda surprised by that, I mean I'm no Brad Pitt, far from it :) But well the whole family was there, my parents and stuff... So that's kinda hard to say something... Allmost impossible really. But afterwards I thought, maybe if I had written a note and given it to the waiter so he could give it to her later. Where I said I thought she looked cute and that if she would maybe like to do something, she could call me.

What do you guys think? Is that just stupid or ... I really regret it now that I hadn't done anything like that. If only my family wasn't there you know... why the fuck did I see such a special girl at such a wrong moment. This weekend I met 4 new girls, all came dancing next to me or started talking to me but I didn't like any of them (to young or to fat and the last one picked up a guy just 10 min after she started trying to get my attention).

The good news is that a friend of mine (female friend) asked me to go out with her and her friends (all girls :D ) tomorrow. And that I could stay with her afterwards :P (in an all girls sorority house btw :D ) But I still regret the fact that I didn't do something tonight, even if it was a stupid note...

[Kal-EL905]

Notes are for kids, you have to have the balls to go up and talk to them.

If bad stuff happens and she shuts you down, oh well, move on to the next one.

Life's too short to fail before you try out of fear of failure.

[blinkmeat]

Been there. Same kindof shit happens to me all the time. But i never make a move, comatose with sexual tension. NExt time I say just hang back not make it obvious and do your thing.



BTW, whats with girls and their little power struggle crap. Today I was at Starbucks where this chick an I have been courting and I'm like, what're your plans after work? "Baseball game" How's your saturday then? "Tournament"... ok do you even wanna hang out then? "Yes"... I work sunday until 9 come by and we can talk then. "

I understand that she needs to make sure i'm "safe" but wtf... This chick is playing my game not hers. I'm gunna email, say i can't make it, but if she wants to hang out some place neutral to talk lets do something! go bowling or whatever... she needs the altematum I think... this is cramping my style. :twisted:

Humbug!!

[SilviaEvo]

I like to look at sexy girls, the less clothes the better

AMEN!!!

[possessed_beaver]

mmm.. ok first off for anyone that doubts my skills:
http://www.motorworld.net/forum/showthread.php?t=15115&start=240
not braging, lol


beaver, sarcasm works for sure, but ur still using pick up lines. and that still cheezy


dude - i have only ever used a pickup line once.. (well a few times) and i can tell you it did work, not the pickup line but the way i used it was DIFFERENT to evrey other wallflower in the joint (guys that just stand on the walls and wait for the chicks to come to them) u know what i did i walked up to a girl and said:
"hey i need you're opinion?"
"yeh - ok! what u need help with" (i got such a enthuastic responce cuz of the way i asked)
"well you see i find that other chick oover there very attractive, and i want to aproach her what one of these is the least pathetic? *insert 2 chesey pickup lines*"
"well i like the first one.. blah blah blah insert other chick bs"

i can tell you that worked a mint, because as soon as i was talking 2 her, she thought she was mine - then i started showing intrest in other chicks and she got protective and wanted me all to herself! - but no pickup lines are just stupid.


The beaver is a teenager and knows how to get teenage pussy. But if I was you I would listen to everyone else. They will lead you down the right path in this situation.
No offense Beav, but you are still playin with teenagers if they respond well to your games. Any real woman would know the difference right away.


i beg to differ, girls LOVE to be teased and made fun of and flirted with, can u rember been a girl and getting teased by all the boys, and how much the girls loved the attention, then the guys started showing intrest, and it wasen't as fun.
girls love getting teased at 8 years old, and love it still at 28.

but aye if people have other methords thats fine... only problem is mine work :wink:


BTW, whats with girls and their little power struggle crap. Today I was at Starbucks where this chick an I have been courting and I'm like, what're your plans after work? "Baseball game" How's your saturday then? "Tournament"... ok do you even wanna hang out then? "Yes"... I work sunday until 9 come by and we can talk then. "


she is trying to control you and set the boundrys.... and if she controls you she will have control over evreything (including weather she puts out or not!) but if u turn it around and TAKE CONTROL!!! you will have control over EVREYTHING!!! - including weather u get pussy or not!
tell her YO ARE BUSY! and you will do things on YOU'RE TEARMS! - show control, if she wants a wuss she can control SHE WILL GET MARRIED! - simple, if she wants a man who spreed his seed (like human nature wants) she will get a dominate male!

[Kal-EL905]

mmm.. ok first off for anyone that doubts my skills:
http://www.motorworld.net/forum/showthread.php?t=15115&start=240
not braging, lol


LMAO, that could be anyone man. I work with hot chicks everynight and there are many pics of us together.

If you had a pic of her naked with you maybe that would be admisable.

Tsk, tsk, tsk......kids.

[possessed_beaver]

mmm.. ok first off for anyone that doubts my skills:
http://www.motorworld.net/forum/showthread.php?t=15115&start=240
not braging, lol


LMAO, that could be anyone man. I work with hot chicks everynight and there are many pics of us together.

If you had a pic of her naked with you maybe that would be admisable.

Tsk, tsk, tsk......kids.

meh dude, i have many pictures, of her - and other chicks.

you dont want to believe its me maybee cuz u are jealous?

[1zippo1]

Notes are for kids, you have to have the balls to go up and talk to them.

If bad stuff happens and she shuts you down, oh well, move on to the next one.

Life's too short to fail before you try out of fear of failure.

true, but it's kinda hard to do that with your parents standing next to you... For me it is at least

[Kal-EL905]

meh dude, i have many pictures, of her - and other chicks.

you dont want to believe its me maybee cuz u are jealous?

LOL! Jealous?


Beav I'm a bouncer at an upscale bar, there is never a shortage of gorgeous women. Trust me, there is nothing for me to be jealous of.

I'm not knocking you, all I'm saying is that it's really good to be where I am.


Perhaps we should keep this thread focused on helping our friend instead of inflating and pounding our chests.

Cheers,
Kal-EL

[Kal-EL905]

true, but it's kinda hard to do that with your parents standing next to you... For me it is at least

Yes, you're right. I forgot about that part.


Next time make them leave five minutes before you, lol.

[possessed_beaver]

meh dude, i have many pictures, of her - and other chicks.

you dont want to believe its me maybee cuz u are jealous?

LOL! Jealous?

Beav I'm a bouncer at an upscale bar, there is never a shortage of gorgeous women. Trust me, there is nothing for me to be jealous of.

I'm not knocking you, all I'm saying is that it's really good to be where I am.

Perhaps we should keep this thread focused on helping our friend instead of inflating and pounding our chests.

Cheers,
Kal-EL

ok man - hug! *hugs Kal-EL905*

zippo man, u should of went in for the kill, as soon as a chick shows ne sign of intrest IT'S ON!!

better to of tried and failed rather then never to of tried at all.

[Kal-EL905]

hehe *hugs* lol

[blinkmeat]

Here's the email I'm sending the coffee Goddess:


"Sorry can't make it Sunday between 7-9 I've got to be here to take a call (i'll provide her with more detail). But if you still wanna chat than lets do something fun while we're at it, and if not no big deal.
I know we don't know eachother very well, and we're both still auditioning eachother here but if we do things my way I can promise you it'll be more fun! even if you just make a good friend.

Let me know"




So what's the verdict?

[RC45]

How about going with...

"Sure I can be there.. but I have to run some erands before hand - so Whats you cell number? That way If I finish early I could give you a call and get there by 6:30ish."

Short - simple - to the point and no "games".

[blinkmeat]

How about going with...

"Sure I can be there.. but I have to run some erands before hand - so Whats you cell number? That way If I finish early I could give you a call and get there by 6:30ish."

Short - simple - to the point and no "games".

Normally I would do something like that but she's the one playing the power-struggle game by trying to dictate everything, so I must defeat that, otherwise I'll be getting this stuff all the time.

[blinkmeat]

Do any of you guys just get thrown completely off your game when talking to a women, then end up saying things you regret later on b/c what you're portraying isn't your authentic self? This keeps happening to me...

How can you combat this?

[possessed_beaver]

Do any of you guys just get thrown completely off your game when talking to a women, then end up saying things you regret later on b/c what you're portraying isn't your authentic self? This keeps happening to me...

How can you combat this?

always reber to be in control - and confident, you dont want to be an emotional piece,

WANT HER to turn into an emptional wreck!

how i combat this, i act like a cocky confident dickhead, and never give them strait answers to this sorta shit.
hard to explain.. i will brain storm on this and get back 2 u. :)

[possessed_beaver]

blinkmeat, i have thought about this a bit further.. hard to explain in words, maybee u should call me soemtime or something.

but PLEASE PROMISE ME you will go to the book store and buy some books on body lanuage and confidance, because thats what u need, if u doubt yourself chicks will doubt weather they wana sleep with u..
the most sucessfull guys are the ones then when they start talking 2 a chick, they alredy know they are going to fuck them. not break down and start dribbling some emotional crap..

chicks like telling there emotional crap but not hearing it...

AND NEVER TELL A CHICK U LIKE THEM.. im sure they will get the hint when u are getting with them or fucking them, so u dont need to tell them.

it also gives THEM CONTROL control to MAKE or BREAK a relationship with you - after all you want the control.. not them!

but please do that man, im sure u can find audio books on kazza or something.

[RC45]

blinkmeat, i have thought about this a bit further.. hard to explain in words, maybee u should call me soemtime or something.

but PLEASE PROMISE ME you will go to the book store and buy some books on body lanuage and confidance, because thats what u need, if u doubt yourself chicks will doubt weather they wana sleep with u..
the most sucessfull guys are the ones then when they start talking 2 a chick, they alredy know they are going to fuck them. not break down and start dribbling some emotional crap..

chicks like telling there emotional crap but not hearing it...

AND NEVER TELL A CHICK U LIKE THEM.. im sure they will get the hint when u are getting with them or fucking them, so u dont need to tell them.

it also gives THEM CONTROL control to MAKE or BREAK a relationship with you - after all you want the control.. not them!

but please do that man, im sure u can find audio books on kazza or something.

Yep - typical chauvinist Aussie.. :P ;) :lol:

Talk about stereo-type... :lol:

[blinkmeat]

Audio books... can you suggest anything?

[blinkmeat]

Also... sent a ball busting/ sexual email to lady # 2. The mojo is coming back... But thx RC and Beav, I'm just in the ages between adulthood and teenagedom... Just outta a 4 year relationship and thus been otta the game for a while..

Much appreciated :arrow: :fadein:

[styla21]

maaan this thread is getting interesting. blinkmeat i've followed your plight dude and honestly i would agree with 90% of what beav has been preaching.
Isn't it funny how you see some guys who arn't your greatest work of art (nothing special) and somehow have a gorgeous girl on their arm who is gaga? It's cos these guys are a 'challenge' to the opposite sex. Beav is on the right track here, not wanting to submit to some beauty's ego. If you think about it - women are hit on all the time, mostly the same way. All guys, ALL GUYS, have a confidence thing in the back of their mind, and sadly pick the 'mr smooth' approach and then wonder why they got the response they did.
Do something different, for a different result! fortunately, it's no biggie - just pucker up and be confident, stride in like you own the place and lay it out.
i have no doubt you'll score - your posts on here are witty and intellectual and there's no question that you'll succeed with these girls.

[possessed_beaver]

Yep - typical chauvinist Aussie.. :P ;) :lol:

Talk about stereo-type... :lol:

*hugs RC45*

[blinkmeat]

When you're sitting in front of her what's you mindset?

[possessed_beaver]

When you're sitting in front of her what's you mindset?

basicley, confidance control.
pay attnention to you're posture ect.

i will make a bigger post on this later.

[RC45]

When you're sitting in front of her what's you mindset?

basicley, confidance control.
pay attnention to you're posture ect.

i will make a bigger post on this later.

What the beav is saying, is that basically you stop short of whipping your dick out and bitch slapping here with it.. :P

But it is quite funny to watch all this neanderthal advice being dished out.

[BADMIHAI]

But it is quite funny to watch all this neanderthal advice being dished out.


What did you expect from the Crocodile Hunter's country? Suaveness and grace? :roll:

[blinkmeat]

Fellas, I was on Kazaa last night while talking to a friend on MSN. We were talking about picking up girls and he pointed me in the direction David DeAngelo, a "picking up" guru. Anyways, I've been listening to some of his seminars and have found them to be quite informative so I thought I'd pass his name along seeing (hoping) as I can't be the only charity case on this forum... :roll:

If you need some wisdom than this is your man.

Also, I'm looking forward to any ADVICE you guys have in the future, even if it is Neanderthal type stuff... 8)

[SFDMALEX]

Shit....................


This whole thread is hillarious

[RC45]

Shit....................


This whole thread is hillarious

No kidding ..the freaking blind leading the blind.. :lol: :D

[BADMIHAI]

No kidding ..the freaking blind leading the blind..


Shouldn't you be in the Paralympics?

[RC45]

No kidding ..the freaking blind leading the blind..


Shouldn't you be in the Paralympics?

And reduce your chances at a medal.. I don't think so.

Last I heard you had pretty much wrapped up the singles sprint and long distance Stupidity face off..

[BADMIHAI]

Last I heard you had pretty much wrapped up the singles sprint and long distance Stupidity face off..


In that case I should be glad you're not joining the games to take my gold medal away from me. :mrgreen:

[possessed_beaver]

basicley inoring what RC45 said.. because after all it came from his mouth, and he seems to be condersending.. like he can do better, but not give out any decent advice, i have this to say about mindsets, and when u first meet a chick.

there is a KEY difference between the way men
and women act when they meet a "potential mate".

Women usually act like this:

"You're interesting to me. I'd like to get to know
you better, and we can see where this goes."

Men usually act like this:

"I am so interested in you that I'm nervous. In fact, I'm already thinking of you as a potential girlfriend or wife... or at least a one-night stand."

basicley, women are usually casual and laid-back when they're first meeting a guy... because it's not like they are aproached 1000 times!

But GUYS tend to act like every girl is a POTENTIAL WIFE. and this behaviour, can make them very nervious, and say shit that you are probley going to regret! like "i like you"

THE SOLUTION!!

The simple solution to this is...

DON'T DO IT.

If you start acting all freakish and nervous when you're talking to a woman, you're probably going to screw things up before they've even had a chance to get started.

Treating a woman that you've just met as if she very well could be the love of your life is something you should NEVER do.

Instead, take a very different approach.

tease her, be dominate, control you're feelings, act like she is you're friend act not intrested, dont act like you want to jump her bones the second she shows intrest.. (like a REAL neanderthal would do) and this will let her relax around you, and see you are different then "mr smooth" and enable you to seduce her at will.

[blinkmeat]

Coo Beav, and others

I'll implement this stuff and some other styles and attempt to find my own. The hunt begins, although I'm the one being hunted these days which is nice. Some of my buddies are coming back for the fall semester too, so it'll be coo to go out in a group...

Thanks again

[hemi_fan]

basicley inoring what RC45 said.. because after all it came from his mouth, and he seems to be condersending.. like he can do better, but not give out any decent advice, i have this to say about mindsets, and when u first meet a chick.

there is a KEY difference between the way men
and women act when they meet a "potential mate".

Women usually act like this:

"You're interesting to me. I'd like to get to know
you better, and we can see where this goes."

Men usually act like this:

"I am so interested in you that I'm nervous. In fact, I'm already thinking of you as a potential girlfriend or wife... or at least a one-night stand."

basicley, women are usually casual and laid-back when they're first meeting a guy... because it's not like they are aproached 1000 times!

But GUYS tend to act like every girl is a POTENTIAL WIFE. and this behaviour, can make them very nervious, and say shit that you are probley going to regret! like "i like you"

THE SOLUTION!!

The simple solution to this is...

DON'T DO IT.

If you start acting all freakish and nervous when you're talking to a woman, you're probably going to screw things up before they've even had a chance to get started.

Treating a woman that you've just met as if she very well could be the love of your life is something you should NEVER do.

Instead, take a very different approach.

tease her, be dominate, control you're feelings, act like she is you're friend act not intrested, dont act like you want to jump her bones the second she shows intrest.. (like a REAL neanderthal would do) and this will let her relax around you, and see you are different then "mr smooth" and enable you to seduce her at will.

Okay man, thats deffinitely copied and pasted of David D's newsletter!! hahahaha, Ive been reading this whole thing thinkin "damn, he sounds like he's read/listened to everything every done by DeAngelo..." I read his e-book and shit. Havent really had a chance to test it out yet, but its worth a shot with the "Cocky/Funny" approach. But that whole post sounds exactly like something of his that I read. Had to bust your balls for that.

[maalox]

Do any of you guys just get thrown completely off your game when talking to a women, then end up saying things you regret later on b/c what you're portraying isn't your authentic self? This keeps happening to me...

How can you combat this?

What do you mean by this? Do you mean that you say something dumb or awkward (happens to the best of us) and then make yourself look like a dork/idiot/loser? Or do you mean that you're playing a role--e.g. the hedonistic playboy--that creates a false impression on whoever you are speaking to?

I'm going to assume you probably mean the former (as this is the problem virtually every guy will have to deal with at some point). First of all, don't regret anything you've already said. It will just send you into a spiral of angst and worry about something she likely didn't even notice, and will hurt your confidence. (If you're really screwed, abandon ship and take it as a lesson learned--either temporarily or permanently (depending on how serious you are about the girl in question).)

The worst thing you can do in those cases is try to stammer out a retraction. This brings further attention back to the original faux-pas and only makes you look nervous. You want to appear strong and united, and so must avoid appearing sheepish or apologetic. If you must mend things immediately, do not be self-deprecating.

Now, to prevent these things from happening in the first place, you have to build up your chatting skills. Saying something dumb is either from poor social skills or, more often, from being nervous. There's not much you can do for the first one, as that's just how you grew up. Find a girl who sees things the way you do and you'll be fine. However, you can certainly deal with the latter. Some posters mentioned some dude's book--haven't read it, but they might be a start. A better idea in my opinion is to find a friend who is better with women than you are. It sounds like you're in school, so you'll likely have plenty of oppurtunities to see him operate. Watch how he interacts, and pick up some of the queues. If you don't have someone like this, then don't worry, because in the end it's all about you. Confidence is power, and you will definitely feel more in control once you develop some. Being in control will make conversation more natural and generally more charming. Building confidence is an entirely other post, but start by doing what I said above--don't sweat the little things. They've been said and there's nothing you can do about it. Now don't say them again ;).

(Btw, if this is totally offbase, hopefully someone gets something out of it.)